With Father’s Day approaching this weekend, many will be making plans to spend time with their dads, uncles, granddads, brothers and sons; however, some may not be so fortunate to have those close to them.
As professional funeral directors, we understand how difficult this holiday can be if you have lost a loved one. Therapists have been known to question whether parent-specific holidays are even more difficult than other holidays.
This day is a test of endurance for those whose father or son has passed away, and we must take the time to be grateful for our own families and appreciate what others might be going through on June 18th, 2017.
Additionally, some may be mourning their father through divorce or relationship breakdown, and if this applies to you, perhaps Father’s Day is the best time to try to make amends. However, if you believe this not to be the case, just remember to be kind to yourself and sensitive to your own feelings.
Everybody grieves and suffers differently and even if your natural reactions are different to everybody around you, you must allow yourself to feel what you need to feel. Perhaps visiting a trusted friend or a support group can help you in this time of need.
There are many things you can do to ensure that you have a productive and effective father’s day without allowing your emotional state to worsen or affect your mood. Although grieving can be a very long process, allowing yourself to do whatever it is that will make you feel better about remembering your father will help you to have a better day.
One of the most helpful ways to grieve and remember on Father’s Day is to take part in something that he truly loved. Whether that’s going out to eat at his favourite restaurant, playing golf, watching horse racing or going to the cinema, doing something that he enjoyed will allow you to honour him and remember him in a loving and heartfelt way.
Better still, share these rituals with your children, siblings and friends to teach the people you love about who your dad was and what he really loved.