A funeral service is a memorial to the life of your loved one. Although they may be gone, the service is an opportunity to remember their life and the memories they’ve left behind, and arranging a personal, well-chosen flower display is a beautiful and tasteful way to reflect the life of your loved one. In the midst of all the preparations ordering funeral flowers can seem like just one more chore, but with the right approach, it’s an opportunity to create a personal and memorable atmosphere.
Was your loved one an avid gardener with a favourite, beloved flower? Were they an artist, forever painting the daffodils in the garden? Did they have a favourite scent, or flavour? With a central theme to build around, your funeral flowers won’t only be decorations, they will be a direct reflection of your loved one’s personality. There are many options available to you when building a theme for your funeral flowers, from the type and colour of the flowers to the shape in which they’re arranged.
If you aren’t sure what you want, most florists have websites where you can view different combinations of flowers and colour arrangements before making a decision, and they are usually happy to discuss your individual requirements. In addition to the colour and type of flowers, you can also augment your funeral flowers with scented and coloured candles, giving your venue’s ambience a lift, and making the overall service a brighter and warmer occasion. A small bouquet with a scented candle or two forms a centre point around which to talk and reminisce.
Once you’ve selected a theme, be sure to inform the funeral directors of your choice, as well-wishers will want to send sympathy bouquets and letting them know that there is an overall colour scheme will allow them to choose their tributes accordingly.
Once you’ve decided what theme your funeral flowers will have, you should arrange for them to be delivered. Most funeral flowers can be delivered with only a short period of notice (within 48 hours), and as the flowers need to be fresh they should arrive no more than 24 hours before the funeral. Flowers can usually be sent to the funeral directors in advance, reducing the stress on you, so liaise with your funeral director before ordering.
“Pink roses signify grace, love and admiration. White lilies symbolise purity and embody the innocence that has been restored to the soul after death.”
Building your own bouquets can be a very rewarding way of memorialising your loved one, and a good way to save on the cost of the funeral. Flowers from your own garden have a very personal touch and keep you directly involved with the production of the service, but it is a time-consuming method which may be unfeasible when planning a funeral on your own, or under time constraints. Getting family members and friends to help can draw everyone together before the service and take the weight off your shoulders, allowing you to approach the service without undue stress and worry.
Once the flowers arrive, they will need to be displayed around the venue. If you have a specific theme in mind this will need to be communicated to whoever is doing the arranging, or you will need to be present yourself. Often a funeral director will be able to assist with the arranging of flowers as part of the service, and this can be a good way to reduce pressure on you. Make sure you communicate with the directors in advance to let them know what you’re intending, as you’ll want to avoid any unforeseen complications on the day.
Well-wishers may want to supply their own sympathy bouquets (which, if you informed the director of your theme, should fit with the colour of your main flowers). You should bear in mind that they will need to displayed somewhere, so provide a table or space for them to be placed on.
Once everything is assembled, take the time to explain to people why you have chosen your flowers. They form the character of your service, showing a memory or facet of your loved one that everyone present can appreciate and remember, and talking about their memory keeps the service from becoming overly austere and sombre.